From the begining...... part 2

July 2009 ~ "Cinderella" arrived to live with us. She was very shy, quiet and was nervous about her new school. but all in all she adjusted quite well.

August 2009 ~ "Cinderella" started school (5th grade) she made really good grades, made honor roll every semester except the last one. (She got one c on that report card) She had adjusted amazingly well, she called me mom, (not by force, but because she wanted to. she confided in me and was very loving towards me)

"Evil Ex Wife" had called her a few times, tried to start drama but really did not have much interaction with "Cinderella" The "Evils" on the other hand did try to stay in her life, calling, requesting overnight stays (which "Father" agreed to) ("Father" had been paying child support to "Evil Ex Wife" this whole time)

We made it through the summer and on to the next school year. (6th grade)

"Evil Ex Wife" has made no mention of wanting "Cinderella" back.

Untill I got wind that she was telling everyone in her home town and family members that "Cinderella" was coming home at spring break and would be staying.

I told "Evil Ex Wife" that she should have contacted "Father" before spreading a rumor that was untrue.
She came back bashing me and my parenting skills. And said that she was coming to get "Cinderella" and "Father" would never see her. (Of course Im leaving out some of the conversation, for one i cant remember every word and two she has a horrible potty mouth)

At this point "Father" files court documents to modify custody of "Cinderella" 
As soon as the "Evil ExWife" recieved her papers she drove 3 days to get here and had help from the "Evils" and they took "Cinderella" and refused to give her back. There was nothing we could do, the police said that since the most recent court papers (from the divorce stated "Evil ExWife" had primary physical custody of "Cinderella") they could not leagally do anything for us.

"Evil Ex Wife" and the "Evils" slandered us and told "Cinderella" countless lies about "Father" and I.
When they finally brought "Cinderella" home, to "Father" and I. Cinderella was no longer happy and talkative. Not only did she have hatred towards me but towards "Father" as well.

(Durring this whole time, I had and continue to have an amazing friend who we share so much in common with. we will call her

                          "The Queen"
 She was my rock and has continued to be. I love her so much. She is the one that took care of "Cinderella" and her siblings, before "Father" and I were fully in the picture)

To be continued.......

From the begining......2001.... part 1

I met "Father" his wife had just left him and taken "Cinderella" away. (So I knew from the begining that he would come with baggage, just didnt know how it would change my life many years later.

"Father" and I (Lady Tremaine) moved in together, and started our relationship. Things were good, did not here from the "Evil Wife", untill "Father" recieved a phonecall that "Evil Wife" was taking "Cinderella" and moving half way across the US. I had to pick up the pieces of what remained of "Father".

We did not here from "Evil Wife", we searched for her but everytime we got close she moved, keeping "Cinderella" from "Father"

Over the next couple years we searched, mainly wanting to know that "Cinderella" was ok, and "Father" desperatly needed the divorce papers signed. If we were going to continue our voyage together.

Finally one day in 2005 "Father" recieved a birthday card from "Cinderella" with a returned address. From that point, every holiday we sent gifts, not only to "Cinderella" but to her other siblings, that we knew where there.(not fathered by "Father") (we found out later that "Evil Wife" was telling kids the gifts were from her)

2006 we were allowed to see "Cinderella" for a supervised visit by the grandparents (whom we will call the "Evils")
"Evils" realized that we meant no harm and just wanted time with "Cinderella" that visit we were able to have her spend two nights with us. (We had so much fun) I was 8 months pregnant with "Anastasia" at this time"

2007 "Father" flew out to pick up "Cinderella" we got to have her for 1 week.

2008 "Father" flew out to pick up "Cinderella" we got to have her for a 2 weeks.

Sept of 2008 after "Father" filed for divorce. He recieved a phone call from "Evil Wife" saying in short, its your turn to raise "Cinderella" i cant handle her anymore. ("Cinderella" was 9 at this time) So it was arranged that the following summer after "Cinderella" finished summer school, "Father" would go get her and she would live with us for a year.

Right after divorce was final. "Father" and I got married.

July 2009 We learned from some friends who lived near "Evil ex wife" that she had not been caring for any of her childern. "Cinderella" and her siblings had been cared for by this couple. We were told horror stories of what the kids went through. We already made up our minds that once we got "Cinderella" in to our custody we would not let her go back.

to be continued......

My First Post

I am a 28 year old, wife, step mom and mother.
I do love my family but I am having a hard time with my step parent role.

My husband is 33yrs old. He is the man of my dreams and my bestfriend. (Father)

His daughter is 12 yrs old. (Cinderella)

Our daughter is 5yrs old (Anastasia)

Both girls were adjusting well to becoming a family, up untill recently.

Our marraige was adjusting well too, up untill recently.

My relationship with Cinderella was really good she called me mom, we had what I thought was a great bond. Recently she has ruined that bond. I cant help but feel guilty for the feelings I have for her now.

I will start from the very begining with the next post